A woman’s heart is intricately molded by and will forever bear the design of the relationship she had – or didn’t have – with her father. Father’s Day brings out different emotions in a woman, depending on her connection with the man she called Dad.
For me, Father’s Day has often been painful and difficult. While I take joy in celebrating my husband and the wonderful daddy he is to our daughter, I don’t have the pleasure of celebrating my dad. I loved my father deeply, and know he loved me, too. We had a close relationship throughout my childhood and young adulthood, and my heart bore the design of a deeply cherished Daddy’s Girl. But in 2001, he took his own life, and forever scarred my heart.
I wrote the post below on my personal blog site last year, after my step-dad left me without a father figure once again. I’ve chosen to re-blog it here. I have no earthly dad to celebrate this year, but I can celebrate Father’s Day, for I am not fatherless. Sisters, we have a Father who will never leave nor forsake us!
If you are struggling with pain and grief today, you are not alone. You can confidently say with Hagar, “Truly here I have seen Him who looks after me.” (Genisis 16:13). He sees your pain, He collects your tears (Ps. 56:8), and He is a Father to the fatherless (Ps. 68:5). Read below, and be blessed, dear Sisters.
The place a father holds in the life of his children is priceless. No other relationship is like that of a dad and his little ones. Indeed, I truly wonder if any relationship can compare to that of a man and his daughter. And the loss of that relationship is especially painful.
Celebrating Father’s Day has never been the same for me since 2001, the year I lost my dad to suicide. For many years after, I browsed the card section, searching for a card for another girl’s dad who became my step-dad.
But my eyes only fell on those that spoke of growing up with your first love – first crush, first hero – and knowing this man would always hold your hand and your heart. Tears would flow and my heart would ache – or become angry. Angry over my loss, angry over his decision, angry that I…
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